Warts and All

I was speaking with a colleague today about how difficult it can be to have small children and how much they can try your patience. Often, the stuff that makes it to the blog is the fun, entertaining, aren’t-they-so-cute stuff, but a lot of the time it’s just plain hard to have 2 small kids and be 2 full-time working parents, I don’t care how amazing you or your children are.

Case in point, our adventures with ice cream the other day.

I had a day off, put the kids in school so I could run errands, and told them that I’d pick them up early so we could get ice cream together, thinking it would be a fun idea.

We get to Little Man Ice Cream and the boy chooses chocolate with sprinkles in a flat cone. I get the girl strawberry with sprinkles and we sit down on a bench to eat. The girl is somewhat incredulous at being given a whole cup of ice cream all to herself, and proceeds to gorge herself with no attention to precision and globs of pink fly onto her raincoat. The boy is standing up, licking away at his cone, entirely content.  I feel like a great mom having a great time with her great kids.

Then, it all goes to hell.

The sun goes behind the clouds, and the boy says, “Can we finish our ice cream at home? My hands are getting so cold!!”  It seems reasonable enough, but I’ve forgotten that you can’t reason with a 22 month old.  I tell the girl, “Let’s finish our ice cream at home,” while I take the cup out of her hands.  She responds by screaming continuously.  I try to pry the spoon out of her fist but it’s no use.  It’s her only ice cream left and she’s not having it.  I can’t pick up the livid toddler and carry her ice cream at the same time, so I give the cup to the boy (whose ice cream is now in a cup as well) and we start walking to the car.

As he walks with ice cream cups in hand, he trips and falls prostrate on the ground, scraping his palms on the sidewalk.  Both cups tumble to the ground.  He stands up and starts bawling while I try to console him with the fact that none of the ice cream touched the ground.  Remember, the girl is now being carried like a battering ram and screaming her head off the entire time.  The boy gets it together, still sniffling, and we get to the car where the girl proceeds to make her body as rigid as a board and refuses to get into her carseat.  With no small amount of wrangling, I manage to strap her in, but I’m frazzled now and say to the boy, who is standing behind me,  (and this, I’m not proud of) “I wish you could have just stayed there a few more minutes! She’s so upset now!!”

To which the boy starts wailing, “I’m SORRRRYYYY!!!!” and crying as loud as HE can, repeating “I’m sorry!” over and over.  I get to experience screeching in surround sound.

Sigh.  Two screaming kids and a guilt trip is not what I had had in mind.  People are staring, too.

I turn around, give the boy a kiss, hug him and say, “I’m sorry.  It’s okay–it was getting pretty cold.  Tell you what–let’s go home, turn on the fireplace, and eat our ice cream by the fire where it’s warm and toasty.”  This mollifies him and we put the ice cream into the cup holders in the back seat, where they fit perfectly. 

At home, the girl hyperventilates in her high chair until she gets the ice cream in front of her and proceeds to demolish it and then lick the cup.  The boy parks in front of the fireplace and eats the rest of his as well; peace is restored.

It all ended well, indeed, but there were a few moments in there where I just had to take deep breaths and do my best to remain calm, and even that I failed to do entirely.  This post doesn’t even begin to cover the mad morning rush to feed/clothe/transport children and the reverse routine at night that we have on a daily basis.  All of this to say that while it’s fun and I wouldn’t trade it for anything, it’s challenging too–and I’m well aware that many parents have it much tougher.  I know that you, too, have a story of when you were not a particularly graceful parent under pressure, and I just want you to know that you are not alone.

Singin’ in the Car

The girl does the most adorable thing these days when you drive with her.

No matter what’s on the radio (usually some depressing tale of suffering, anguish, or political misconduct on NPR) she will sing at the top of her lungs whilst slapping her knees and waving her little head back and forth like an Indian raga singer. Her hands reach up as high as they can go before coming down onto her knees one at a time, and she only pauses if she sees a dog, bird or train and has to show you the sign for it.

She’s very tuned into music (pun NOT intended, but there nonetheless) even more so than her brother was.  Some of her favorites are Wilco, the Flaming Lips, Old 97’s and more recently even Garth Brooks.  The boy got a mix CD from a friend of his for his birthday of all of his favorite songs.  It’s mostly a Country mix, and it includes some good stuff like Johnny Cash, but we’ve also had to sit through countless repetitions of “Cheeseburger in Paradise.”  I kid you not. Really, though you put any music on and she starts dancing and swirling around, utterly delighted.

I know some of you have seen the dancing video before, but it’s too cute not to repost here.

 

 

Here’s one where she’s singing and doing her little head bobble. It’s a bit older, so she “sings” more nowadays, but you get the picture. Yes, she’s sitting in a tupperware and yes, the boy is “playing” a helicopter.

 

Perfection Mitts

Well, that didn’t take long.

Remember this hat? It took a lot less yarn than I thought it would, so I had plenty left over and thought it would make a nice pair of fingerless mitts.  I found this pattern, which I loved as you could unfold the mitts to be longer for extra warmth, or fold them back if you needed to use your fingers.

I wanted to make them longer than the pattern but wasn’t sure if I’d have enough yarn to make them even, and I didn’t want to knit an entire mitt only to find that I didn’t have enough yarn to make the second one as long as the first.  So I divided the yarn into two equal balls by weight first.  Then, I cast on with a provisional cast on, finished the mitt, and then picked up from the bottom and kept knitting until it was as long as I wanted, adding another cable to the wrist to fit with the pattern.  As it turned out, I had quite a bit of yarn left over and just started the second one from the bottom up.

Pattern: Axel Fingerless Mitts

Yarn: Cloud City Fibres thick and thin, 89 yards

Needles: 8

I don’t typically consider myself much of a perfectionist, except when it comes to knitting.  My sister said that part of the charm of handknits is the imperfections, but I think that if you’re going to spend that much time making something it should be perfect–otherwise, why bother? Of course, this is generally impossible and drives me batty because nothing I make is ever completely perfect.

In the case of these mitts, I did the first mitt as above and then cast off with a regular cast off.  When I started the second one, I realized that I could start in a tubular cast on, which looks so much nicer.  I finished the entire second mitt, and then couldn’t stand how the original one didn’t have a tubular cast on/off, unraveled it entirely and reknit it with the appropriate technique. Much better. See?

Now I’ve got 97 yards STILL left over, maybe enough for a little neckwarmer, perhaps?

Freewheeling

The boy is fully riding a two-wheeler!

He had been riding a push bike for well over a year and had it down.  The idea is that the difficult aspects of learning to ride a bike are balance and steering, so a kid can figure those out first without bothering with pedals.  Then, when it’s time to ride a two-wheeler, you don’t even need training wheels.  At the suggestion of my friends Geoff and Karen who had their 4 year old twins riding without training wheels, we got him a 12″ bike for Christmas, and look!

(Excuse the music.  I couldn’t help myself)

A bit of a shaky start, and then he just goes!

It was pretty incredible to watch the first time it happened.  More than that, it just felt so BIG. I think that so far, the other achievements that we regard as milestones are all part of being a baby or a toddler.  But riding a bike is a big kid thing, and it signifies another level of freedom and ability.

I also realized that this is now the first time that he can go faster than we can.  Since, as I’ve mentioned before, history repeats itself, this worries me.  When I was six, my parents took me riding at the local park.  I rode ahead of them and climbed onto two parallel bars (part of the VitaCourse).  Dangling from one, I swayed to and fro, and then spied two elderly women round the corner.  I thought to myself, “I’ll show them what I can do!” and got on top of one of the bars.  I used to spin around the bar, like on the school playground, and was just short enough that I missed the other bar.  Unfortunately, I had grown. As I propelled my body forward, my forehead landed with a sickening thud on the second bar and I dropped to the ground unconscious, with a gash in my forehead and blood everywhere, which was the scene that my poor panicked parents saw as they rounded the corner.  Obviously, I survived, albeit with a rather large scar, but I’d rather not have to relieve that particular incident.

As he rode around the asphalt, it also made me realize that this is the first major leap into childhood, and by extension, into independence and pulling away from his parents.  It’s a bittersweet feeling when your child achieves something new.  On one hand, you’re just so proud of him, but on the other you realize that it means he needs you just a little bit less.  I know it’s not the last time this will happen, but it feels like it’s the first significant one. Or, as our friend John, father to teenagers, said, “This? This is nothing.  It only gets worse.”

Shocking!

Does anyone else have the Sandra Boynton book, Blue Hat, Green Hat? (As an aside, how does that book get 87 reviews?! I mean, it’s about 10 pages long and has maybe 30 words?! People love to give their opinions on everything. Like I do with my blog. Anyway.)

For those of you who don’t have it memorized already, the basic premise (if you can call it that) is showing animals wearing clothes. The first three animals are wearing them correctly, but the last one is a turkey who’s got it all wrong. The girl finds this book utterly shocking, as you can see for yourself.

OH NO!!!

Wise Old Ravenclaw

Believe it or not, I haven’t stopped knitting during the last few months.  I was making a few scarves for dear friends of ours and couldn’t post about it because they occasionally peek in on the blog and I didn’t want to ruin the surprise.

As usually happens when I give away something I knit, I manage to do so before I get the usual pictures of it to post on the blog.  Since I’m a full-time worker bee, full-time parent, and only part time knitter and blogger, these things get a bit of a short shrift.

Anyway.  Anne and Susan are two friends who I love for many reasons, not the least of which is that I now have someone in Denver to go see all the Sci-Fi/Fantasty/totally geeky movies that I love and Eric detests.  Eric will rarely go see any of these films with me and when he does, he’s one of those types that keeps asking questions like, “Why is that pointy curly thing sticking out of his head?” which just drives me up the wall.

So over the summer, we went to see the new Harry Potter movie and loved it.  At drinks afterward, I casually asked, “What house would you be in?” Susan immediately replied, “Ravenclaw!” I raised a quizzical eyebrow to Anne, who tilted her head towards Susan and said, “I’d be in whatever house she was in,” which was just incredibly sweet.  Now that I knew which house they were in, I could set off on making them house scarves.

The scarves in the movies vary from Year 1-2 and Years 3+, so I thought I’d make one of each and then they could decide which one they wanted to wear.  Also, then they wouldn’t have matching scarves, which is a bit too geeky even for me.  Ravenclaw house colors differ from the book (bronze/blue) to the movie (silver/blue), so I chose the book colors out of a sense of authenticity to the source material.  Yes, I do realize I’m talking about Harry Potter here.

My unwilling model for the Year 1-2 scarf.

And my lovely sister models the year 3+ scarf.

Pattern: Hogwarts Scarves (rav link)
Yarn: Cascade 220 colors 9449 and 7823
Size 7 needles

They’re knit as big tubes so they have no wrong side and are doubly warm.  The color switching was a bit fiddly for the second scarf, but I finally figured out the best technique, which was to add in the yellow, knit with the jogless jog method in the round while carrying the yellow along with the center blue stripe, shifting the row over one stitch at each color change to make each stripe 3 stitches high, and then break the yellow after the stripe bundle was done.  I combined this with the method of knitting in the end as you go along, which meant a lot less work at the end.  Here’s another great example where I meant to get good tutorial pictures and just never managed to.  Here is a link to the technique I used.

Anne and Susan were finally gifted the scarves on New Year’s Eve, and loved them as much as I hoped they would.  These were relatively simple, technique-wise, to knit but did take up a fair bit of time.  It feels sort of odd to have them finished, to tell the truth.  I always knew I had these to work on and now that they’re done, I’ll have to pick up a new project.  It’s sort of like that feeling that Eric mentions to me when he finishes a marathon–exhilarating but disappointing at the same time because once it’s over it’s sort of like, well, what’s next?

Merry Belated Christmas

Late post–work kept me pretty busy last month, hence the downturn in posting.  I meant to have this done by Christmas but better late than never, I suppose.  And now on to the post itself.

When it comes to religion, both Eric and I are rather decidedly (mostly) non-believers.  Eric grew up in a relatively strict Christian household and studied the Bible quite a bit, and while much of the text still holds meaning for him, he is not a practicing Christian.  I was nominally raised Hindu, and a lot of the fables and tales still draw me, even if I don’t believe in the theology.

So what’s a mixed-race, secular family to do for Christmas?

I understand that, obviously, the holiday holds deep sacred meaning for many.  Even without that, it’s a pretty fun time: presents, trees, lights, songs, family.  In addition to the usual fun things, we are trying to develop our own traditions and pick up some that have been lost.

One such tradition ended many, many years ago, in a flurry of pierogi dough being flung across the kitchen.

Eric’s grandmother was Czech, and as such would make pierogies every year for Christmas.  They can have meat, but Nanny made them in her traditional form, as a peasant food with potato, cheese, and prunes.  It’s a bit of an involved process, but Eric remembers how much he loved making them with his Grandmother while growing up.  After his grandmother died, Eric’s mom, Cheryl, continued the tradition until one fateful day when Eric and his mother got into a fight whilst making pierogies.  Enraged, Cheryl began throwing pierogies at Eric across the kitchen.  The original fight has long been forgotten, but ever since that year, Cheryl simply purchased the pierogies instead of making them herself.

A few years ago, we decided to pick up the tradition again, and now the boy is old enough that he can practially make them all by himself.  This year, we tried a fusion pierogi–potato bhaji filling in the usual dough, to sort of combine both of our ethnic backgrounds into our own tradition.  We have not, as yet, made a prune filling out of lack of demand.  We use a very old, very traditional, very…well, okay I downloaded the recipe from the Food Network website–Polish Pierogies by Emeril “Lagaski.”

First you sift the flour, crack the eggs, and then mash everything up.

The boy has gotten really good at cracking eggs and rarely gets any shell in.

Then you roll the dough out and cut circles out of it.  The boy uses his own little rolling pin and does a nice job.

Then you carefully stuff the pierogies.  Note the look of intense concentration on Eric’s face.  This is not a job for the faint of heart.  Too little filling, the pierogi doesn’t taste that good.  Too much, it explodes when you boil it.

After stuffing and folding over, you use a fork to press around the edges and seal them.  The boy kept calling this “forking” and would cry out, “I want to fork them!”  This caused our inner twelve-year olds to giggle uncontrollably.

Then you have the perfectly plump pierogies, ready for boiling.

After all of that, we boiled the pierogies and then stored them in the fridge.  We eat them on Christmas Eve, sauteed with onions until they are crispy golden brown.  Sadly, I do not have any pictures of the finished pierogies as I was struck with a horrific flu virus and spent the next two days in bed.  I only got to eat 3 of the 5 dozen pierogies that we made and those tasted like cardboard because of my head cold.  I was told by the other consumers, however, that they were quite tasty.

It’s a pretty involved process, to be sure, but we all love doing it and next year the girl will be able to do a bit more than just eat them.  Something about making pierogies has come to mean that it’s the holidays.  Another tradition we have is that I always make souffle for Christmas dinner, though of course I couldn’t get out of bed to do it this year. Maybe next year I’ll post about that one instead.

I like the idea of creating memories for our children around the holidays, so that when the kids grow up, they can remember how we used to spend the whole day together, talking, laughing, making pierogies, and how eating them will always remind them of home.

What holiday traditions do you have?

Batteries Not Desired

As Christmas approaches, it is with no small amount of dread that I await presents for the children.  Despite the many, many times that we’ve told well-meaning gift-givers otherwise, we inevitably receive numerous toys that are a) electronic, b) loud, c) have no redemptive value and more often than not d) all of the above.  I still don’t understand why people buy these things.  First of all, the packaging requires a small saw to extricate the item.  The kids go gaga over them for about, oh, 5 minutes and then once they’ve figured out that pushing a button does the exact same thing every single time, the toy is relegated to the bottom of the bin, but not before Eric and I are tearing our hair out in sheer annoyance at listening to a plastic flower shriek, “I love you!” for the 500th time.

Even toy manufacturers have fallen prey to this notion that more bells and whistles is better. Remember the classic “See n’ Say” of your youth? You used to point the arrow to the cow, pull a string, and the machine would say “The cow says ‘moooooo.'” The toy now has 2 flip pages with all sorts of sounds, a “quiz” mode that is too difficult for the intended age group, and a lever that is too hard for little ones to pull.  Same thing goes for the classic corn popper toy–now with lights, music and number counting. (Though can be purchased in its old incarnation, unlike the See n’ Say.)

I’d much prefer toys that encourage some degree of creativity and free play, since those are the ones that seem to have the most lasting value and are well tolerated by parents.  Truth be told, the favorite “toys” at our house are the cardboard boxes, couch cushions, and blankets which can be manipulated into forts, space shuttles, cars, houses and so much more, and also anything that involves dress-up.  I’ve had many house calls by the “doctor,” repair jobs by the “worker,” and trips to space with “Neil Armstrong” than I can count. Puzzles.  Puzzles are also a hit.

Anyway.  As an act of guerrilla parenting this holiday season, I encourage you to cut out the warning labels below and take them with you on your next visit to the toy store.  Slap them onto anything that pertains, which is probably most everything there, and think about the the real caution labels that should be put on today’s playthings. (Taken from Make Digital Magazine, full link pic below large ones)

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Volume 07

Happy Blogaversary to Me!

Yesterday was the official day, but I was post-night shift and in no shape to blog using polysyllabic words.

Let’s see what I managed to write about in the last year:

At wordle, you can put in anything you want and generate a wordcloud where the frequency of a word used in the source relates to the size of the word in the cloud.  The one painfully obvious thing that jumps out at me is that I clearly use the words “really” and “just” waaaaay too much.  I mean, they rate more often than my kids! My husband was quick to point out that he rates below not only “boy” and “girl,” but also well below “yarn” and “knitting.”  I refuse to comment on that for fear of incriminating myself.

The truth is, the wordcloud is a pretty good little snapshot of what I do with most of my time.  I confess, I wish there were some better words/phrases in there to make me seem cooler, like “humanitarian,” “novella,”  “drag queen,” or “hiking Kilamanjaro” but that’s just not where things are right now.  To borrow a phrase, so it goes.  While it may seem narrow in scope, I’d like to think that the world I’ve constructed around myself is rich in depth, humor, love, and fun.  And now I’m getting all cheesy, which simply isn’t allowed.

Let’s see what comes in the next year, and if I can manage to shift the cloud  bit further to the cool side.

And with that, we’re off to a “Harmonica” party, where the boy gets the honor of lighting the first candle!